Empowerment

Doula Dynamics!

As far back as history goes, in most cultures and countries, women have supported women during childbirth. In most cultures a midwife was present to oversee the birth and assist the process physiologically. In many instances the midwife had an assistant, or a “doula,” a Greek word meaning “servant woman” to support the birthing mother if she did not have her own inner-circle of women and family members to support her. These women would provide wisdom, nourishment, nurturing and comfort measures to the birthing woman during the birth. Universally, birth was regarded as a sacred and empowering event in most women’s lives.   

Sadly, medical development and advancement in our modern society have robbed birthing women of that sanctity.  These days, pregnancy is regarded as a medical condition and delivering a baby a medical procedure. The birthing room is brightly lit with fluorescent lights, hospital noises fill the air and the birthing woman is confined to a bed where, more often than not, she gives birth in a position she’s told to assume and not in a position of her choice. What’s more, she is further constrained to her choice of birthplace by the insurance company requirements and protocols.

 Giving birth has become big business for hospitals, obstetricians and insurance companies, and all of them do it in the name of “safety for mother and child”. Research and statistics show that Cesarean sections, and medical interventions during birth, are at an all-time high. However scientific research has also revealed that the presence of doulas, supporting birthing women physically and emotionally, reduces c-section deliveries and substantially reduces the use of epidural anaesthesia, forceps deliveries other medical interventions during birth.  

So, in a world in which there are so many considerations to take into account, and where birthing women are required to “work within the system”, you can have the best of both – make use of the expertise of a doula at your birth. Whether you’re having a natural delivery at a birthing center or you’re giving birth at a hospital, even if you’re having a c-section delivery, a doula will significantly enhance your birthing experience!

Here are some tips to consider when appointing a doula:

  • If you have the means to hire a private doula make sure you get referrals from your midwife, care provider or friends.    
  • Research the doulas who’ve been recommended to you. If they are private doulas, most of them have a website or a Facebook page which provides info about the doula, and where you can get an idea of her birth philosophy and the type of person she is.
  • Interview potential doulas.
  • Like any interview, prepare for it and compile a list of questions to ask during each interview.
  • Remember you need to “click” with your doula. She’ll be working in close contact with you for a good period of time, so if she has an annoying tick, or is too overbearing for your likes you’ll need to flag it. Thank her for her time and interview another candidate.    
  • If you don’t have the financial means to pay for a doula, and your insurance company doesn’t cover the cost of a doula, there may be volunteer doulas who work in your area – do a Google search to find them.
  • In many countries there are foundations that serve low income families and many of them provide the service of a doula when you enroll in their birthing program. In this case you wouldn’t be able to interview your doula, but the fact that she’s working for this foundation guarantees that she has your best interests at heart.      
  • If you have a birthing partner, it’s a good idea to include him/her in the interview as it’s part of the doula’s job to advise your birthing partner how s/he can best support you during your labor and birth.

Your doula will support you, nurture you and be your advocate, if you want her to be.  She can make the difference between you having a traumatic birth experience and having a beautiful birth experience!

Nature

Birth Empowerment with Nature

You have been anointed by Mother Nature to become a mother and bring a new life into the world. This is the most sacred honour you, as a woman, will be blessed with, so in this last month of your pregnancy, surround yourself with nature and creativity.  Marvel at creation in all its forms and at every opportunity give thanks for this magnificent role bestowed on you.

In the birth empowerment program, Beautiful Birth Magnificent Mom in 4 weeks, you’ll learn how to empower yourself for the birth of your baby using nature. With a simple yet masterful method, you learn to develop your feminine wisdom by appreciating the magnificence of nature in all its forms. The more you grow and trust your feminine wisdom, the more likely you are to have a beautiful birth experience. And ultimately, your feminine wisdom will be the driving force that navigates you through motherhood.

A sneak-peak into the “Nature Walking” module of the empowerment program has you taking a 30-minute walk in nature, to marvel at Mother Nature. This idea is inspired by the Japanese healing therapy of “Shinrin-Yoku” or “forest bathing”, a health therapy which,

…”has become a cornerstone of preventative healthcare and healing in Japan.” http://www.shinrin-yoku.org/shinrin-yoku.html

Ideally you should walk under a canopy of green trees, however, if you have no wooded area or forest nearby, a walk along a nature trail, on a beach, or in a park is just as good. Most importantly you must be outside and indulging your senses with nature as you walk. Listen to the birds calling to each other; smell the air and the fragrances created by the plants or the water; admire the colours and perfect petal formation of the tiniest flower; and touch or hug a tree noticing how the bark feels under your hands.


Submerge yourself and your senses in the awesomeness of nature and there will be no limits to your creativity! “

The purpose of walking in nature is to marvel at its perfection. Every aspect you take cognizance of, is absolutely perfect – just as your baby is! During your walk, find a place to sit for a few minutes and watch as nature happens around you. Notice how the animals and creatures around you go about their activities with eager intent, yet with no apparent effort. Be curious about any mothers with their offspring. Watch how they naturally assume a caring maternal role, guiding their young as they go.

As you’re watching nature transpire, take a deep breath in, and as you do, create an intention allowing yourself to become one with the environment you’re observing. As you exhale release any self-limiting judgments you may be having, about yourself or people around you. Be at peace knowing you belong in this space, in this moment and everything is as it should be.

Now, find a flower or a bud and examine it carefully. Notice how the outer petals protect the inner more delicate petals and the stamens. With this same awe, imagine your cervix opening, and your tissues and flesh succumbing to deliver your precious creation into the world – perfectly as Mother Nature intended.   Take a mental picture of this moment remembering the feeling of peace with every sense. Find a pebble, a feather or a piece of bark which feels good in your hand and imbue it with that sensual peace. This will be a touchstone you can take into the birthing room with you to remind you of this powerful moment – reassurance that in this moment ,

You and Mother Nature are one, and all powerful, delivering your creation into the world. “